Planning to use a dildo during sex? Read this first

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No longer do we see sex toys as taboo and pervy. They’re common in many homes around the world, and they help out single people as well as couples. But do you know how to use a dildo to its full potential? This article aims to list explore all the necessary details about these faux-cocks and help you improve your sex game by a mile.

If you’re sleeping with a man

Talk to your guy about the idea

Although there’s much less stigma around sex toys these days, talking about them with your partner can get a bit awkward. The thing is, bringing them up during a conversation about sex can affect your man’s confidence. No matter how capable he is, no one likes to wonder whether they alone are enough to satisfy you.

Nevertheless, it doesn’t have to be that way. If you take your time and explain all the benefits of using toys during intercourse, you can help him understand your point. Maybe he’ll be willing to experiment and bring you more pleasure straight away. Still, don’t judge him if he’s reluctant at first. Allow him to process the idea.

Once he agrees, go into details about dildos. Talk about your fantasies, expectations, and whatever you’ve seen in porn you want to try. After all, you’re the one looking to bring anal dildos or strap-on harnesses into your relationship. You can even include a few naughty words while you’re at it. It can spark his imagination even more.

Treat him to a sexy show

If you want to sell the idea of using a realistic or huge dildo, why not put on a dirty show for him? You know, make him watch you as you play around with it. It will be much more interesting if you masturbate with it first. Getting it out of the package and going all out immediately doesn’t have the same charm.

Sit him across the room as you lick the toy first and then slowly insert it into your vagina or anus. It doesn’t matter if it’s a realistic or fantasy dildo — he’ll be drooling like a dog watching food. When you feel ready, crawl across the room and give him a blowjob while the toy is still inside you. Prove to him that sex toys are for both partners.

Get all up in him

To make things more interesting, you can prepare him for anal insertion too. If he’s open to this idea, we suggest you play around with his perineum. The perineum is the area between his balls and anus. It’s great for prostate stimulation as well as relaxing his rectal muscles. Also, you can rub it with a dildo.

You don’t have to put your mouth there if you don’t find the idea hygienic. Still, you can apply slight pressure with a dildo as you give him oral. Rub your large dildo across it in gentle motion, increasing the intensity gradually. This will prepare him for the idea of taking the toy from behind.

Go farther

If everything goes as planned, you can prepare him for further action. Before we go into detail, we should mention that you’ll need lots of lube and a clean toy. You shouldn’t use the same toy without cleaning it beforehand.

So once the two of you are ready, start by inserting your finger into his bum. You can use gloves, but it’s not necessary if he’s clean. Start slowly and gradually get half of your finger inside. Then, you should start applying slight pressure towards the front of his body. This way, you’ll stimulate his prostate and anal walls.

If you’re sleeping with a woman

Double her pleasure

In case your lover is a woman, you’ll also have a ton of options for using your rubber or silicone dildo to its fullest potential. The first thing that comes to mind is to double her pleasure. But how? Well, while penetrating her with a dildo, you can give her oral pleasure simultaneously.

No matter if you’re fucking her with the toy anally or vaginally, you can lick and kiss her crotch and make the sensations even stronger. A perfect dildo is the one that’s used to add more to your bedroom, not the one that replaces a partner. Think of it as a tool to up the stakes rather than an additional penis in the house.

Think beyond silicone

Most sex toy newbies will go for a platinum silicone toy. That’s okay, but you should think outside the box and employ different sizes, textures, and materials too. From glass dildos to stainless-steel ones, you can find all sorts of types online. Of course, don’t forget to read their description before you buy.

You can try big, fat, small, or even dragon dildos if you want to get the most of your kinky session together. In the end, it’s all about variety and different possibilities. You’ll find that different textures allow for new sensations and ideas.

Get in the zone

It’s no secret that stimulating the G-spot allows for the best results. It’s a topic we hear constantly, but that doesn’t mean that you should disregard it. Sometimes, the hype is real, and when it comes to the G-spot, it definitely is.

You should aim to find your girl’s G-spot with a dildo. But don’t worry — it’s not as hard as they make you believe. The thing is, when you insert the toy, try to stimulate the upper area of her vagina. Using the curved tip of the dildo, you’ll find it in no time.

Try a two-for

Another thing that makes dildos so great is their ability to assist you while you attempt vaginal and anal penetration at the same time. Yup, a double penetration. You can couple the dildo with your penis or a vibrator.

Our suggestion would be to place the dildo in her honey pot while you penetrate her vagina with what you have on you. The experience will be unbelievable for both. Sometimes, more really means more.

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